Why do couples move in together and not get married?

Would you buy a car without taking it for a test drive to see if it best suits you? If you wouldn’t, then you would understand why couples wouldn’t get married before moving in with each other.  Some individuals fear the initial step of joining hands before an “alter” so they revert to living with one another verses following “traditional” procedures.  As generations pass on from traditional values, couples are more acquainted to cohabitating.  The fear of marriage succeeding is instilled in many individuals from past experiences or ones lifestyle.  Individuals are fond with cohabitating idea because it’s most convenient.  On the brighter side, couples indulge in cohabiting accomplish advantages that work better in their perception.  Whether you agree with cohabitating couples or not individuals will do what is best for the lifestyle best fits from their perspectives. I will go further in detail why couples follow the decision to cohabitate, which are basically due to religion, fears, convenience and teamwork. 

As we entered the twentieth century, we embraced ourselves for religious differences and traditional values to be left behind.  Most religions follow different views, but most would not side with cohabitating relationships. I grew up with the traditional beliefs for marriage to be significant part of life, and essential to having a family.  For example, in Muslim culture, it is immoral for couple to see one another without getting married. Some individuals don’t take religious views into consideration when dating.  If you look back in history decades ago, couples didn’t date outside of their race or religion because it wasn’t tolerated.  In the present moment, now you have interracial couples that have different nationalities and religions mixing together to be in relationships, which some pursue fulfillment.  Consequently, having multicultural relationships are more accepted now.  In addition to religious beliefs, intimacy is another factor that comes into situation of living together when you aren’t married. Unfortunately, for some individuals they don’t follow religious beliefs nor have intentions to follow any such faith to effect the decision of cohabiting.

I know growing up, we all dream of having that big wedding with someone we fall in love with then live in a big house with a white picket fence in the pursuit of happiness.  Thus, living in hostile environment or disadvantage situation you will find individuals find themselves living life carefree.  It is always best to live your life to what you find best suits you, but sometimes it doesn’t work out in your favor.  An individual, who grew up in a single parent household, may not favor marriage.  When you haven’t had any experience of individuals who are married to inspire you from your elders who you look up to, then you are less likely to be a fan of marriage. Also, if you have no idols to persuade you of marriage being compromising, then you will less likely take initiative to move forward with someone in marriage verses cohabiting.  If you don’t have any trust built in your past history, its less likely you would take chances in a relationship before having full certainty. 

When I think about couples living together and not getting married, I automatically think about convenience.  If you think about it logically, who wouldn’t want to join two households into one so that you could save money?  The couples that want to work with one another have tasks at hand to achieve to progress as a couple.  Individuals in partnership like this are most likely to share responsibilities with chores, groceries, laundry, and shopping for an apartment, studio or house.  

Couples who find cohabiting best suited to build up advantages and interpersonal skills.  If you look at companions who are comfortable in living with their “significant other” they get to organize a better financial strategy and build a stronger foundation amongst one another.  You also spend so much time together, in each other’s space that you have no other choice to get to know one another intimately. While sharing these characteristics with one another, you go through the process of learning about each other!  Some individuals fear the initial step of joining hands to go to the alter before living with each other so living together cohabiting best fits everyone’s desires. 

Growing up, did you ever watch the Cosby show idolizing that one day you would live a life that was presented in this television show? It was perceived that putting forth a show with such positive enforcements, it would inspire more traditional values in generations to come in the future.  Well, at least I am sure that is what Bill Cosby’s intentions were.  Traditional values have been lost with no hope with some individuals! In addition to times changing, there isn’t any substantial inspiration to be instilled in generations to come to continue traditional values.  The best quality a couple could hold with one another is teamwork; that couldn’t establish better living together with or without being married.  If someone isn’t comfortable with commitment beforehand, then living with one another soaking in the moment of infatuation should be the best choice until commitment is equivalent in someone’s’ relationship.