Would
you buy a car without taking it for a test drive to see if it best suits you?
If you wouldn’t, then you would understand why couples wouldn’t get married
before moving in with each other. Some
individuals fear the initial step of joining hands before an “alter” so they
revert to living with one another verses following “traditional”
procedures. As generations pass on from
traditional values, couples are more acquainted to cohabitating. The fear of marriage succeeding is instilled
in many individuals from past experiences or ones lifestyle. Individuals are fond with cohabitating idea
because it’s most convenient. On the
brighter side, couples indulge in cohabiting accomplish advantages that work
better in their perception. Whether you
agree with cohabitating couples or not individuals will do what is best for the
lifestyle best fits from their perspectives. I will go further in detail why couples
follow the decision to cohabitate, which are basically due to religion, fears,
convenience and teamwork.
As we
entered the twentieth century, we embraced ourselves for religious differences
and traditional values to be left behind.
Most religions follow different views, but most would not side with
cohabitating relationships. I grew up with the traditional beliefs for marriage
to be significant part of life, and essential to having a family. For example, in Muslim culture, it is immoral
for couple to see one another without getting married. Some individuals don’t
take religious views into consideration when dating. If you look back in history decades ago,
couples didn’t date outside of their race or religion because it wasn’t
tolerated. In the present moment, now
you have interracial couples that have different nationalities and religions
mixing together to be in relationships, which some pursue fulfillment. Consequently, having multicultural
relationships are more accepted now. In
addition to religious beliefs, intimacy is another factor that comes into
situation of living together when you aren’t married. Unfortunately, for some
individuals they don’t follow religious beliefs nor have intentions to follow
any such faith to effect the decision of cohabiting.
I know
growing up, we all dream of having that big wedding with someone we fall in
love with then live in a big house with a white picket fence in the pursuit of
happiness. Thus, living in hostile
environment or disadvantage situation you will find individuals find themselves
living life carefree. It is always best
to live your life to what you find best suits you, but sometimes it doesn’t
work out in your favor. An individual,
who grew up in a single parent household, may not favor marriage. When you haven’t had any experience of
individuals who are married to inspire you from your elders who you look up to,
then you are less likely to be a fan of marriage. Also, if you have no idols to
persuade you of marriage being compromising, then you will less likely take
initiative to move forward with someone in marriage verses cohabiting. If you don’t have any trust built in your
past history, its less likely you would take chances in a relationship before
having full certainty.
When I
think about couples living together and not getting married, I automatically
think about convenience. If you think
about it logically, who wouldn’t want to join two households into one so that
you could save money? The couples that
want to work with one another have tasks at hand to achieve to progress as a
couple. Individuals in partnership like
this are most likely to share responsibilities with chores, groceries, laundry,
and shopping for an apartment, studio or house.
Couples
who find cohabiting best suited to build up advantages and interpersonal
skills. If you look at companions who
are comfortable in living with their “significant other” they get to organize a
better financial strategy and build a stronger foundation amongst one
another. You also spend so much time
together, in each other’s space that you have no other choice to get to know
one another intimately. While sharing these characteristics with one another,
you go through the process of learning about each other! Some individuals fear the initial step of
joining hands to go to the alter before living with each other so living
together cohabiting best fits everyone’s desires.
Growing
up, did you ever watch the Cosby show idolizing that one day you would live a
life that was presented in this television show? It was perceived that putting
forth a show with such positive enforcements, it would inspire more traditional
values in generations to come in the future.
Well, at least I am sure that is what Bill Cosby’s intentions were. Traditional values have been lost with no hope
with some individuals! In addition to times changing, there isn’t any
substantial inspiration to be instilled in generations to come to continue
traditional values. The best quality a
couple could hold with one another is teamwork; that couldn’t establish better
living together with or without being married.
If someone isn’t comfortable with commitment beforehand, then living
with one another soaking in the moment of infatuation should be the best choice
until commitment is equivalent in someone’s’ relationship.
